How to plan the wedding you actually want.
You’ve said yes to a wedding! Yay!
And you’ve just realised that now you actually have to PLAN the wedding. Crap.
It may seem super overwhelming. There are a lot of decisions to make and perhaps you have no idea where to start.
So here is our best advice.
Pick a couple of things you’re SUPER excited about and make them a priority.
What brings a smile to your face and a flutter to your heart when you imagine it? You’ll be surprised at how quickly this will point you in the right direction.
It’s much easier to start bringing the rest of the puzzle together once you have a couple of key pieces in place. Focusing in on this vision also helps narrow down the almost limitless options out there.
Want a few examples of what I mean?
If you’re imagining wandering amongst your guests, champagne in hand and seeing their faces light up as they congratulate you – you’re going to want a decent ‘cocktail / canapés’ hour. You’re probably going to look for a venue that has gardens or a lawn that fit a relaxed vibe.
Do you imagine an epic first dance and your friends flooding the dance floor as they party the night away? Pick somewhere with space for a band and book in those dance lessons asap.
Do you want something incredibly romantic? Have that candlelit, twilight ceremony and start hunting for something with a tucked away corner.

It can even be a small moment. Do you want to walk back down the aisle under an absolute storm of confetti? Wanna swap the first dance out for a bonfire and marshmallows? Do it!

Choose the 1-3 things that matter the most to you, so as you go into the research phase, you don’t lose sight of what you really want.
For my wedding, I wanted to sit under a canopy of fairy lights and candles. Everything else was up for negotiation, but this one decision shaped so much of our wedding planning. It meant a small, intimate guest list and a climate where we could comfortably sit outside all night. Once we found the venue that ticked these boxes – everything else fell into place or didn’t matter so much.

This process might also bring to light a bunch of things that you DON’T want. This is just as helpful! You don’t have to tick any boxes but your own.
The number one rule of weddings is…. There are no rules.
Your guests are going to love coming to a wedding that is filled with love and personality – it doesn’t need to tick any boxes but your own.